The Art of Becoming

It was 100 degrees in the Twin Cities yesterday.  That's hot.  So we've spent a couple days at the splash deck at the YMCA.  The first time we went a couple weeks ago, Sean and Audrey were both skeptical.  We didn't stay very long, and neither one of them liked the element of surprise that the water provided.  However, we invited friends to come with us earlier this week, and not only did I appreciate the company of another mom, but I hoped the presence of the two other kids would encourage Sean to step out of his comfort zone.  It was a success!  All of the kids had a good time playing, sliding, and jumping through the water.  I was grateful to see Seancito being brave and grateful to the other kids for showing him the way. Back at the YMCA this morning, getting dressed to go out to the splash deck, Sean reminisced about our recent visit to the splash deck with friends. Sean: Mama? Do you 'member when we brought the Hjelles with us to the sp...

Sean saw a bird's nest outside the other day.  It was on the ground and we were examining it. Sean: Why is the nest on the ground? me: I think it fell out the tree? Sean: How does the nest stay in the tree, Mama? me: They are very good builders, and when they build with their sticks, they make sure to position the nest in the branches so it won't fall.  Exept for this nest... which fell... Sean: The birds should have used tape on their nests. me: Ehhh... (laughing)...that's a good idea.  Maybe they could find some tape somewhere... Sean: Can we call all the birds, and tell them that there nest is here and that they can put it back in the tree?  Be all warm and cozy inside their nest? He was so pleased with his idea; his face was aglow thinking about it.  I love how in-tuned Sean is with his creativity and ideas.  A simple joy of childhood, no doubt, is the lack of censor on his ideas.  Whatever comes into his mind he allows to play o...

The most common phrase I heard before we had Sean was something like "babies don't come with an instruction manual" and after having two kids, I could not agree more.  When Sean was first born Tom and I were both overwhelmed and overjoyed by the newness of our child.  We had no idea why he wouldn't sleep well, why he was spitting up through his nose, why he cried so much.  We tried heeding the advice of one friend who told us, "Babies cry.  That's it.  Babies cry."  A simple, subtle yet straightforward instruction that no matter what we do as parents, babies are still going to cry. Though our kids have come to us without an instruction manual, they seem to hit stages in their young lives where they begin to instruct us.  Manual or not, they have many ideas of how things should proceed and how they should be treated. For example, when Audrey is too loud in church, we will take her in the back or out to the lobby to allow her to be a baby and babble,...

Tom and I were both up in the middle of the night with Audrey.  She was running a fever and couldn't get comfortable.  This means we are all pretty tired today.  Of course, the night before last we were up with Sean in the middle of the night. He awoke screaming from his room. When I went in there, he refused to let me help him with anything saying he wanted Dad.  Typical.  Tom took over, and I went back to bed livid.  When Tom returned 10 minutes later, I asked if everything was okay.  I assumed Sean had had a bad dream. Tom: His covers were off and he needed help getting them back on.  It was a four alarm fire. Let the record show that I've had two nights of broken sleep and crying children.  Proceed. This morning I was reminding Sean that we needed to make another thank you note for people who had given him birthday presents. I also told him that we needed to take some pictures of him and Audrey holding Happy Birthday signs so we cou...

The other night we walked to the park after dinner to give Tom some quiet at home to grade papers.  Sean asked repeatedly why Tom wasn't coming to the park with us. me: I already answered that question. Sean: But why, Mama? me: You know why.  Why isn't Dad coming with us? Sean: No, you tell me! ... Sean: (quietly defeated) Because he has to grade the newspapers. Close enough.  It was beautiful outside: mid-50s, sunny, and a light breeze.  We arrived on the baseball diamond and Sean asked if we could play.  We ran the bases, pretended to pitch the ball and swing the bat.  It was glorious.  The moment was sublime. Sean: Do we live on the earth? me: Yes.  Yes we do. Sean: Where is the earth? me: The earth is all around us.  The earth is in front of us all the time.  It's beneath our feet. Sean: Do Beckie and Brent and Jonathan live on the earth? me: Yes. Sean: Do Todd and Steve live on the earth? me: Yes, they ...

This morning Sean was "nursing" Pooh bear.  He was sitting in an over-sized tupperware container (one that would house camping gear or blankets or large toys - a big container) in the living room with Pooh cradled in his arms.  When I double checked to make sure I heard him right, he clarified. me: You are nursing Pooh? Sean: Yeah! me: (hiding all misgivings vocally) That's great!  Thank goodness I was in another room so that my face could allow curiosity, confusion, and humor to cross it. Sean: I'm giving him honey! But of course!  If a man could nurse a small creature, and if a stuffed bear could receive said nutrients, then clearly that man would produce honey from his body in order to supply said bear with exactly what he craves.  This is all coming together now. It makes sense that Sean would explore the world of nursing.  He sees me nurse Audrey multiple times a day.  In fact he recently raised a question about this activity while ...

We sat outside playing with sidewalk chalk and soaking up the abnormal 60 degree weather in March in Minnesota.  We drew bulldozers, backhoes, bowls of fresh berries, refrigerators, and flowers.  You know, the normal stuff.  I received a text, picked up my cell phone (because of course it was but inches from me outside - must be always accessible), quickly read it, answered it and put the phone back down.  Sean stopped drawing with his chalk. Sean: Can you turn that thing off? (though coming from him it sounded like "fing" instead of "thing.") me: (nervous laughter) Sure... why? Sean: I don't want to hear it. While speaking, he'd left his place on the driveway and walked towards me.  I was sitting on the ground, and he was level with my eyes but staring at my cell phone.  He clearly sensed, as he does so frequently, how important my cell phone is to me.  The text message was completely unimportant and mundane, there was no rush, and yet I respo...